We are the result of the choices we make”. In life many people come and go, but who we become at the end is a result of our surroundings. As I said many people come in, but we need to decide who stays back and who doesn’t. As in life it is much better to have no company than bad company.
To become a better person in life, it becomes extremely important to have a circle os people who can help you become a better person. Just let go of those who don’t, you don’t need them in life.
Check out below some warning signs of being in a bad company:
1. Considers only self-convenience when making plans
Are you forcing someone too much to make a space for you in their life? Guess you are absolutely wasting time on them. If that person really cares about you, there will be just no need to ask them for it. No relationship can be formed based on nagging. We can say that you are being stupid, by nagging in front of someone who just doesn’t respect you and your feelings and above all that person is totally overlooking your worth. This is the first sign that you are in a bad company. Move on please.
2. Uses your past as a weapon
Few people will find it really difficult to digest the fact that you have moved on. In fact they smartly use your past against you. They do this as the level of importance they possessed decreases and they also can’t stand the fact that you are growing and moving ahead in life. They do this to re-catch up with you. They might torture you emotionally saying that you are a changed person and things like these to divert your attention towards them. Just ignore them and keep moving forward.
3. They trap you
Yet another sign of a bad company is that few people might trap you in places where you just don’t want to be, or with people you can’t stand. In any relationship the most important thing should be freedom, with all doors and windows wide open. There should be no restriction or pressure as this is an important thing for any relationship to grow. If you feel trapped in an relation, guess it’s time to kick it down and set yourself free.
4. Your dreams and abilities have no value for them
When it comes to your dreams and abilities, no one else can understand it or honour it the way you do. All you need is to be confident and do all it takes to achieve what you imagined to. People might hold you back if you allow them to define your dreams and abilities. Remember nobody else accept you can tell what you are actually capable of achieving. They might give their own assumptions to get you off the track, but you need to stay connected with your own vision.
5. They often keep hiding and lying
Are you still trusting a liar? The people belonging to a bad company often lie and keep on hiding truths. It’s a mistake if you are trusting these people. By trusting him\her again you are giving them a chance to break your trust once again. If someone is trying to hide the truth by lying to you, they are doing it for their own benefit. And not to stay with you, because if you are important for them they would not find any need to hide anything from you. Transparency is a very important thing in a relationship.
- Often behave negatively with you
It hurts a lot when you give a lot of importance to someone, and get nothing back in return. Some people might behave very negatively towards you, try not to take it to your heart. You just need to make your mind and move on. Understand that the actions of these people is a projection of their own reality, their own issues. So if they bang one you , care a damn about it.
7. Provoke you to be judgmental or hateful
Truth be told, no human being is superior. No faith, race, size or shape is inferior. All collective judgments about others are wrong. Only judgmental hypocrites make them.
If you judge others by their skin color, their body size, and their outer beauty, you will miss EVERYTHING about who they really are. It is amazing the quality of people you will learn about and meet in this world if you can simply get past the fact that lots of people are not dressing and living the way you do.
People who motivate you to judge or hate others are as bad as bad company gets. Avoid them at all costs. (Read The Mastery of Love.)
8. They want you to be someone else.
Spend time with people who see you the way you are, and not as they wish to think you are. Spend even more time with those who truly know about you, and who love and respect you anyway.
If someone expects you to be someone you’re not, take a step back. It’s wiser to lose relationships over being who you are, than to keep them intact by acting like someone you’re not. It’s easier to nurse a little heartache and meet someone new, than it is to piece together your own shattered identity. It’s easier to fill an empty space within your life where someone else used to be, than it is to fill the empty space within yourself where YOU used to be.
Positive things happen when you distance yourself from negative people. Doing so doesn’t mean you hate them, it simply means you respect yourself.
What would you add to the list? What’s one big warning sign you’re in the presence of bad company? Please leave a comment below and let us know.